How to Stop Comparing Yourself
“We won’t be distracted by comparison if we are captivated by purpose.” –Bob Goff
If we wouldn’t compare the individual raw ingredients at the grocery store to the delicious taste of a fully cooked meal, why would we compare the beginning of our journey to someone else’s ending? Why would we even want to compare them at all?
When we are engulfed by the comparison of ourselves to others, it only serves to send us in a downward spiral.
Social media is filled with curated versions of lives. People choose what mask they want to wear and what they want to share.
Sometimes, I’m posting about a trip I took two years ago as I’m laying in bed thinking about where I want to get my pizza and ice cream after I schedule my next post. And it's because I'm reminiscing said trip and dreaming of my next vacation.
I assure you, I am one of MANY who don’t always post in real time. Yes, everything I post is real, and I LOVE my life. But it doesn’t mean my life only consists of what you see on instagram. I live a life of intentionality and authenticity, of purpose and abundance. But my life also encompasses moments of doubt, fear and anxiety…of the ugly cries that have me gasping for air because my nose is completely stuffed and my tear ducts are drowning itself. By the way, if you’re resonating with this, you are totally normal and not alone.
Life can get messy at times. It’s just the way life works. There’s no shame in that. It doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong. What it DOES mean is that you get to decide whether we want to sit in our own pity and misery, OR choose to get up and fight the friggin' fight.
When we look at other people’s portrayal of who they are online and take what they post as a clear and accurate depiction of their entire life, we also start thinking about how our lives suck in comparison to theirs. We start questioning our choices, our identity, our purpose. And we start believing that we're not good enough, not pretty enough, not grieving fast enough, not tough enough, not successful enough. We start telling ourselves that we are doing something wrong, and that we are JUST NOT ENOUGH.
How does any of that serve us well? It doesn’t.
Don’t create opportunities to feel like crap. CHOOSE to create more opportunities to SHINE!
Stop yourself in the tracks when you catch yourself comparing yourself. Take a deep breath.
Unfollow feeds on social media that introduces toxicity into your life.
When a self-deprecating thought enters your mind, squash it immediately by saying, “NO!” And replace it with a positive affirmation.
This is not a one-time practice. This needs to be a marathon- a daily practice that becomes a part of your lifestyle.
When you know who you are at the core of your being, when you know your values and are unwavered by others, you can shift your energy and focus on your own "WHY" instead.
Don’t get lost and drown in the sea of comparison.
Find your purpose and be captivated by it.
I'm rooting for you!
xx,
Teresa
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